Love and partnership relations

The fulfillment of love creates a deep connection - a bond. However, the strength of the bond has nothing to do with the feeling of happiness in the relationship. When a couple is found, it is not just two of them. The systems of two families come together, each with its own history, destinies, burdens, norms and values. Constellations can be used to clarify the causes and consequences of events in your relationship for which there was no explanation until now.

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• Are you not able to find the "right" partner?

• Do you keep attracting the same type of partner? Is your partner dependent on you, do you have to take care of him/her? 

• Do you change partners often?

• Are you unable to "heal" yourself from a breakup?

• Are you attracted to unconventional partnerships?

• Do you have an extremely jealous partner or do they blame you for being very jealous?

• Are you not heard in the relationship, or do you feel that your needs are being ignored?

• Do you feel inferior in a relationship?

• Do you stay with your partner only because of the children?

• Did your partner have previous partnerships, marriages?

• Do you not get along with your partner´s children from a previous union?

• Have you lost sexual interest in your partner?

• Has there been infidelity in your relationship?

• Are you unable to start a family?

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Adriana is a very educated, self-confident and above all successful woman, but she was not lucky with partners. She was always surrounded by successful and smart men. At least thats how they appeared. A few months into the relationship, the truth was always revealed. A successful businessman turned into a super-indebted businessman who didn´t even have a sublease and had to borrow from her. Another, almost a lawyer this time (he tried to finish school but still failed) drove his mother´s car and lived on pocket money but did not hesitate to borrow money from her for her engagement ring. And the best of all was when he announced to her, only after half a year of living in her apartment, that he is actually still somewhat married and can´t even pay alimony for the children.

 

Nevertheless, she always stayed with that partner. Several years passed. She didn´t understand why she couldnt leave. She despised him, but still cared for him. She didnt´ know otherwise. Engaged several times (ring always bought from her finances or a joint credit card that she had to pay off). The last straw was the dog that her partner bought using her credit card. She was sorry to give the dog away, so she finally packed up her last fiancé and decided that it was necessary to do something differently. She was already exhausted (both mentally and financially) from the same type of partner. Adriana´s coach recommended family constellations to her, and that´s how I met her.

 

Adriana´s grandmother on her mother´s side was forced to marry. Not out of love, but out of necessity. Her father was killed and she was the oldest of the children, so she was expected to be the one to bring help to the family. She married a man she had known for a few weeks and knew next to nothing about. He was a hard worker and that was all that mattered. After the wedding, reality emerged. However, he was a workaholic who spent all money on alcohol. Divorce was not an option at that time. Grandma was left alone for everything.

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He prresented himself as a working husband, but in reality she had to take care of everything. Grandmother´s unresolved, repressed anger at her husband was transferred to her granddaughter, who did not understand why partners like these always cross her way. What was also interesting about this constellation was the fact that each participant was solving a similar problem in a partner relationship. Harmony was brought to life by this constellation to several people. I am in constant contact with Adriana. For several years, very happily married to a partner who does not need her finances or care.