Family

There are only a few words which plunge us into the deepest emotions of joy o sadness as quickly as the words "family, father, mother, children, siblings".Especially when the relationship is not the best. We are all connected to family members by a bond, even if we have had little or no contact with them.

We come from our parents and that must be remembered. Some children, instead of accepting their parents as they are, judge them or are unable to accept them as they are.

Constellations help to bring harmony to tense situations in the family.

Are you troubled by problems with your mother, father, children, siblings?
Do you feel bound by family ties?
Were you adopted or have you adopted a child?
Was one of your parents emotionally or physically absent during your childhood or adolescence?
Did you lose a parent in childhood or at a young age?
Do your parents prefer another sibling? Do you feel like he/she gets more love and attention than you do?
Do you have bad memories of your parents?
Do you feel like you don´t belong in your family?
Do you think others had/have better parents than you?
Are you ashamed of your parents, children?
Do your parents expect you to take care of them at the expense of your family, health, etc.?
Do your parents blame you for something or do you blame your parents for
something?
Do you prefer not to maintain contact with the mother/father/child?
Do you visit your parents out of guilt or obligation?
Is your child difficult to manage, "problematic"?

Sandy came to the constellation feeling that she must have been adopted. According to her, she has a loving family who would do anything for her, but she has felt nothing but emptiness since childhood. She ran away from home, rebelled, pretended to be an orphan. She did not know much about her ancestors, she did not care, as she was convinced that they were not her family. But she knew that her grandmother came to the US as a 6-year-old girl during World War II. The parents managed to secure a false passport for their youngest daughter and in 1938 they put her on an ocean liner bound for the USA.

The uncle who lived there was supposed to provide her with a safe haven until the war ended and she was reunited with her parents and siblings. They never met again. They perished in a concentration camp, and Sandy’s granmother grew up without her parents and siblings. Her uncle and aunt did what they could. They provided the girl with a home, love, and education. But they could not replace her {Sandy’s granmother} parents.

The constellation was very emotional for all representatives and especially for Sandy herself. It helped Sandy understand why she felt so empty. Sandy was associated with her grandmother, a little girl who didn´t understand that her parents didn´t send her away because she was bad or didn´t like her, but to save her life. She was the only survivor. The other 6 family members were not so lucky.

I haven´t heard from Sandy in over two years. She contacted me when I was already in Slovakia. She was in Europe too. After the constellation, she decided to go to Germany and Poland to look for her ancestors. She ended up staying for several years. Sandy is in daily contact with her parents.