Do you survive or enjoy the holidays?

Even in the best of times, the holidays can be the worst times. For some, it is the season of celebration and family gatherings. for others it is a very stressful time (In) voluntary visits to relatives, mother-in-law's comments, gifts that make you immediately think about who you will pass them on to next...

Family members can be the greatest blessing and fill your heart with endless love, but at the same time, some can make you feel completely invisible. Just as the power of a family bond can awaken a viable energy in us, the same power can shorten your whole circuit. Gathering with family ANY time always has a strong energetic component.

For generations, families have met mostly during the holidays.

For generations, families have met mostly during the holidays. For many people, gathering for a meal wasn't a daily occurrence, and the holidays were the only occasion when the family sat together. This is an incredibly powerful time of anchoring the past, and it is not only a collective spiritual experience, but above all it is a personal experience. Family gatherings are thus a unique opportunity when we have the chance to shed light on the causes of uncertainty, stress and old dysfunctional patterns in our family.

But how?

When I first started with constellations, my”teacher” Krista used a system that helped people overcome the tension of anticipated family gatherings. It was the idea of a festive table in your family. Think about it. I recommend choosing a quiet part of the day when there are no more responsibilities waiting for you. For some, twenty minutes is enough, for someone it will be visit by an imaginary festive table lasting an hour. Don't let anything and especially no one disturb you.

Think about it - who was seated where? Was the seating chart determined in advance? If so, by whom? Who was missing? Who sat at the table but was not present in spirit? Who was seen and heard? Who wasn't? And why? What or who could not be talked about? Are your personal feelings at the table similar to those of another family member?

No judging, no feeling sorry for anyone, simply observing family dynamics. And perhaps these holidays will be different for you . You may find the way to understand the uniqueness of your energetic, family heritage and be able to face it with an open heart.

Family constellations can help you not only survive the holidays, but also enjoy them.

Alexandra Alexander