Is aggressive behavior hereditary?

Probably each of us has encountered an aggressive individual during our lives. Most of the time, men are the aggressors, but cruel women are no exception. But why is that other person aggressive and not you?

Of course, each of us has some hidden trigger, but most people can stop themselves . Prisons around the world are full of murderers and aggressors with zero remorse and a clear conscience.

And loving parents look for causes, try all kind of options available, and at the same time they worry about the future of the child.

I have read several interesting studies on the genesis of killers and murderers. Most of them focused only on their parents and the environment in which the individual grew up, concluding that almost 85% of abusers came from a violent environment. And here we are somehow stuck, because although we have a likely conclusion that a child who is subjected to cruel treatment or has grown up in such an environment is likely to be inclined to the same behaviour. The question should be asked - Who started this aggressive, cruel, tyrannical, violent behavior? Who was at the beginning of this chain and why? But what if the aggressor is a child who is surrounded by love and understanding, but still fights, attacks younger children, hurts animals...

And loving parents look for causes, try all kind of options available, and at the same time they worry about the future of the child. A few years ago, my teacher told me about a very interesting constellation that she led. It was attended by parents, both loving, educated people who had a big problem with their 5-year-old son. Ever since he learned to speak, he had talked from dream and said very strange things ithat he had nowhere to learn, as his parents selected what the boy watched and what was read to him. He shouted that he would kill them all. This was happening almost every might. Night terrors.

Parents took him to a psychotherapist, who recommended family constellations. At the constellation, this boy, their son, was not addressed, because only those who are burdened by the situation and would like to change it, can be addressed. The constellation pointed out an interesting fact and brought light where there had been darkness for years. The grandfather of the child´s mother was during World War II in the Pacific. Not many soldiers talk about the horrors they will survive. It will be burried in a secret drawer in their head. But that Pandora´s box is just waiting and waiting for someone to open it. This was also the case with that grandfather. He came home after war and continued to live on. And he didn´t tell anyone about the horror he experienced until his granddaughter, the day after the constellation, asked him directly. And he talked. His camp was attacked by Japanese soldiers, one of whom ran with a knife in his hand into the tent where young soldier {Grandpa} was already lying wounded.

He was lucky because, he had a gun with several bullets on him. Before he shot the enemy, Japanese soldier managed to shout something at him. Those few words stuck in his head forever. He never searched for a translation. He stored it in his Pandora´s box. Im sure you can guess what those meant. I will kill you all... No more night terrors for that boy and his family. Do you get goosebumps? Does it seem unbelievable to you? Family constellations point to unprocessed complex situations and often open the Pandora´s boxes of our ancestors.

Alexandra Alexander