My mother caresses my hair and I know it´s out of love. She is always by my side, she loves me, my dear mom!

Mom – The word that the vast majority of us learned to pronounce first. A word that has been sung so many times in poetry or materialized in art. Most often, when we say the word mom, our mom pops up in our minds. And this idea may not be the most pleasant for everyone. Mother´s Day is typically considered a time of celebrating, love, warmth and caring family experiences, with tributes to mothers shared via social media, in person, with flowers, cards and family gatherings. However, for some, Mother´s Day doesn´t bring this warm, caring feeling; for others, even the slightest mention can trigger emotions that a child or adult struggles to overcome.

Maybe you didn´t have a mother who knew how to give unconditional love and empathetic care, or maybe she didn´t fit into the formula of the perfect mother. Into a pattern that you may be trying to fit into now. To be a better, more caring, more attentive, simply a better mother. Or maybe you´re just trying to be at least as mother as she was, but she set the bar way too high.

Many times, the unhealed wounds of our mothers are passed on to us, or we unconsciously make up for what they did not receive from their own mothers. Sometimes we can´t find love, because if we were loved, we would be happier than her, who maybe wasn´t so lucky. Mothers may subconsciously ask us for an energetic connection, and we will eventually supply it to them for life. After all, you can´t leave your best "girlfriend"—you unconsciously became one when her relationship with your dad didn´t work- and live your life to the fullest when she needs you more.

Mom – The word that the vast majority of us learned to pronounce first.

What’s unresolved with your mother doesn’t automatically disappear. These fragments of our past carry immense weight, influencing our perceptions, actions, and choices . When we feel hurt, we naturally build walls to protect ourselves from the pain caused by disappointment or unresolved issues. Those walls protect us for some time, but will not resolve anything.

What’s unresolved with your mother doesn’t automatically disappear. These fragments of our past carry immense weight, influencing our perceptions, actions, and choices . When we feel hurt, we naturally build walls to protect ourselves from the pain caused by disappointment or unresolved issues. Those walls protect us for some time, but will not resolve anything.

How do you feel when you think of your mother? Does your heart open with compassion or tighten with resentment, fear or anger?

Did illness prevent her from being present in your life?

Did she die at childbirth or at your very young age?

Do you feel she cared more about another sibling?

Were you forced to live her un-lived dream?

Were you forced to be an adult in very young age?

Are you experiencing hard times with your own children?

Are you having hard times to become pregnant?

Did you voluntarily give up being a mother because of the memories of your mother?

The legacy of an interrupted love can cast a long shadow, obstructing our path to life fulfillment. Family Constellations unveil the shadows cast by disrupted love and incomplete connections with our mothers. They are one of the tools to heal the wounds between mother and child. Constellations also shifts the energetic patterns that keep us locked into the wounded mother/child dance.

„Healing the mother is the key to ensuring that everything in your life flows lighter.“

Bert Hellinger

Alexandra Alexander